#Daryl R. Van Tongeren

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Daryl R. Van Tongeren – Tevazu (2023)

Tevazu kendimize, başkalarına ve bizi çevreleyen dünyaya, onu olduğu gibi algılamamızı sağlayacak şekilde yaklaşmanın yoludur. Bilimsel araştırmalar göstermiştir ki tevazu insan ilişkilerini güçlendirmeye, iş hayatında ilerlemeye ve toplumu daha iyi bir noktaya taşımaya katkı sağlar. Yadsınamaz bir güce sahiptir ve dönüştürücüdür. Bugün artık modern bilimin kadim bilgeliği onadığı noktadayız:…

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Losing my religion: Who walks away from their faith and why?

Researchers have recently begun to study individuals who are no longer religious. This group of formerly religious individuals—known as the religious dones—is growing in number, but little is known about those who deidentify from religion. Aaron T. McLaughlin, Daryl R. Van Tongeren, Kelly Teahan, Don E. Davis, Kenneth G. Rice, and C. Nathan DeWall sought to fill that gap in knowledge through research; their results were recently published in Psychology of Religion and Spirituality. Building on previous research (Van Tongeren et al., 2021), the authors conducted two studies to examine the religious dones’ motivations behind leaving religion and whether there are different types of religious dones.

First, in a pilot study, the authors queried self-identified religious dones about their reasons for leaving their religion. In response, each participant wrote a short personal essay, which was coded by the research team. Four primary themes emerged. About half of the sample (51.8%) reported leaving for intellectual reasons or because they outgrew their faith. Roughly a fifth of the sample (21.9%) reported religious trauma, such as the hypocrisy of the sexual abuse scandals in the Catholic Church. Others (14.9%) reported leaving religion because of personal adversity, such as an inability to make sense of the tragic death of a child, or social reasons (11.4%), including a religious community’s being unwelcoming.... Read more

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#repost The Best Greater Good Articles of 2022 - Here are the 20 most popular Greater Good articles from the past year, according to Google Analytics, followed by our staff’s nominations for the 10 best (but not-as-popular) articles we published in 2022. 1. Is Your Brain Foggy? Here Are Five Ways to Clear It, by Jill Suttie: Studies are finding that isolation, stress, and uncertainty can cause forgetfulness and disorganization. Here’s what to do about it. 2. How Relationship Satisfaction Changes Across Your Lifetime, by Kira Newman: Our romantic happiness goes through normal ups and downs as we get older—and we’re least happy around age 40, a new study finds. 3. How to Turn Bad Anxiety Into Good Anxiety, by Kira Newman: A new book explains that anxiety can give us clues about how to make our lives better. 4. How to Stay Open and Curious in Hard Conversations, by Mónica Guzmán: Here are eight tips for having better conversations across our differences. 5. What to Do When You Never Feel Good Enough, by Kira Newman: Are you stuck in constant self-judgment? In a new book, a clinical psychologist suggests a better way to feel good about yourself. 6. Five Ways to Help Someone With Depression, by Richard W. Sears: Knowing how depression works can help you better support loved ones who are struggling. 7. Four Ways to Cool Down Your Defensiveness, by Daryl R. Van Tongeren: Our brains make us naturally defensive, but there are steps we can take to cultivate more humility. 8. Eleven Films That Highlight the Best in Humanity, by Jeremy Adam Smith, Shuka Kalantari, Andrea Collier, Shanna B. Tiayon, May-Lee Chai, Jill Suttie, and Amy L. Eva: It’s time for the Greater Goodies, honoring movies from the past year that exemplify optimism, love, empathy, and other keys to our well-being. 9. Four Ways Dancing Makes You Happier, by Kira Newman: Human bodies are hardwired for dance, which might explain why it’s so good for our health, happiness, and relationships. 10. Three TV Series Showing Us How to Bridge Generation Gaps by Marc Freedman: If you can’t begin to imagine a thriving multigenerational, multicultural future, turn on the tube. 11. Two Counterintuitive Ways to Stop Procrastinating, by Fuschia Sirois: Instead of continuing to beat your head against the procrastination wall, how about trying something new? 12. Five Ways to Feel Like You’re Doing Enough, by Rachel Goldsmith Turow: Here are some strategies to reduce self-criticism and feel more productive. 13. How to Get Comfortable With Uncertainty and Change, by Kira Newman: When life is uncertain, our usual responses and coping strategies might not always work. The practice of mental agility can help us be resilient. 14. Four Ways to Stop Imagining the Worst Will Happen, by Patricia Riddell: If you have a tendency to worry about worst-case scenarios, it’s possible to get your brain on a different track. 15. Your Anxiety Might Be Coming From Your Body, by Kira Newman: Diet, sleep, and inflammation can all contribute to anxiety—but taking care of your body could help alleviate some of it. 16. How to Learn From Your Failures, by Jeremy Adam Smith: Research suggests that we need to overcome some emotional and cognitive barriers if we’re to learn from our defeats—but it can be done. 17. How to Stop Overthinking Your Relationship, by Alicia Muñoz: Ruminating about your relationship isn’t a healthy way to solve any problems—and it may be a way to avoid your real feelings. 18. Two Keys to a Calmer Emotional Life, by Kira Newman: New studies are investigating why life is such an emotional rollercoaster for certain people, and how to cultivate more stable happiness. 19. Nine Tips for Giving Better Feedback at Work, by Christine Porath: Receiving feedback (positive and negative) helps us feel engaged, connected, and satisfied at work. 20. I’m a Happiness Journalist, and Omicron Is Crushing Me, by Jeremy Adam Smith: With the new surge in COVID-19, Jeremy Adam Smith is asking himself if happiness is possible right now. Editors’ Picks We polled our staff on their personal favorites from the past year—and came up with more you might also consider reading, listed by number of votes they received. 1. How Much Control Do You Have Over Your Own Happiness?, by Jeremy Adam Smith: Social conditions and inequality affect well-being. So, why do we keep insisting “happiness is a choice”? 2. How Your Life Is Shaped by the Emotions You Want to Feel, by Kira Newman: We all have emotional goals that are influenced by our culture. Understanding and adjusting them could help our health and well-being. 3. How Do You Know if You’re Actually Humble?, by Tyrone Sgambati: New research on empathic joy points the way to closer intimate relationships. 4. When You Feel Jealous, Think About Cultivating “Compersion”, by Marie Thouin: A year and a half into the pandemic, exhausted parents need healing. A mother explains how parents can move beyond burnout. 5. Six Ways to Find Your C…

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July 4, 2020

“This holiday extols our way of life.This is absolutely an emphasis of the exact American values which are under question, and are under question because they are not holding up to reality. The curtain’s been pulled back. And people feel like a lot of this is not working anymore.”

--Daryl R. Van Tongeren, co-author of ”The Courage to Suffer: A New Clinical Framework for Life’s Greatest Crises”, Associated Press, July 4, 2020 (online), In Troubled Times: Independence Day in the land of confusion, by Ted Anthony.

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“Being an American is like having a relationship...If all you can do is accept the good parts of the relationship and can’t deal with the hard stuff, I question the sincerity of your relationship. We need to look at the warts, dark spots and all.”

--Fred J. Johnson, U.S. Historian, Hope College (MI), ibid.